What?
Dadson nebulously refers to the relationship between a father and a son. This section of my website is a shrine dedicated to my interest in dadson. There are several definitions I’ve written here which could be helpful for making a distinction between what is or is not dadson, as well as it’s different forms as I use them on this website.
Dadson (Standard):
“A relationship between two male-identifying individuals that produces an unhealthy Caregiver/Protege dynamic.”
Dadson (Anarchy):
“A relationship between two individuals that produces an unhealthy dynamic that may play into male toxicity, emotional unavailability, oppressive expectations, predate on the absence of parental guidance or skewed power dynamics.”
DDLB:
“A non-biological relationship where, in an ideal dynamic, two consenting individuals roleplay a dadson dynamic.“
(For the purposes of this website, generally this implies there is at least an attempt at a healthy and functional relationship that may or may not participate in kink.)
Why?
I’m not certain! I’ve always had a special interest in fathers and sons.
In truth, the “why” question has never served me and I don’t know many others with my sensibilities, so you’ll have to excuse my lack of response for now.
I’m not here to sell dadson to you.
It’s either something you’ll like or something you won’t, but I do want to provide a way to engage with it for the perverts and their friends as well as my personal archive of knowledge and preferences.
It’s good fun to point at your screen and say “They’re dadson DS!” and have your friend debate if it’s actually ddlb instead.
Life is all about having fun and chilling.
D/S Matrix
This is my method of categorizing dadson pairings based off of the punnett square.
The dad is notated by a “D” and the son is notated by a "S".
The capitalized letter represents being a "provider/seeker of affection or attention" and the decapitalized letter denotes being a "reciever/denier of affection or attention".
You'll notice that two givers and two recievers can make up a dynamic.
I imagine this will get more dimensions over the years, but for now this is all.
Selfcest and Dadson
A common theme through most dadson pairings is legacy, being the next generation brings imposed responsibility from the previous. In this, the expectation is often to become greater or to become alike- and at times “alike” is tied to a grandoise sense of self from the father.
This responsibility only grows from literal and percieved similarities (visual, personality, similar life paths/environment). Deviation from the percieved version of the son as the father or the better version of him, leads to conflict thereby reinforcing the dad is the son and the son is the dad for both parties. The son strives to avoid conflict and submits to the imagined self, the father punishes deviation from himself.
All of this is to say: dadson is often just a fancied up version of selfcest, and selfcest can often be interpreted as familal if not as dadson. This is only one interpretation of the dynamic but often one I keep finding myself returning to in discussion and tend to use to explain dadson to others.
